KC's Purpose Series
God’s Purpose for My Life
Let’s talk about finding, following and fulfilling it
#KC6 with Kadri Aworigo
Many of us long to discover and live fully into God’s call and purpose, yet find ourselves held back by things from our past. At #KC6, we will explore how early experiences, unhealed wounds, trauma, and shame can quietly shape how we see ourselves, God, and what feels possible. Rather than ignoring the past, we’ll reflect on how to begin identifying the barriers that may be holding us back, and consider healthy, faith-filled ways of moving beyond them, so we can live more freely, grounded in who God says we are and open to the purpose He is inviting us into.
Kadri Aworigo, MBACP, is a Christian counsellor and psychotherapist with an MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy from the University of East London. She works in private practice and is the founder of Arise Therapies, supporting Christian women to heal from shame, trauma, and survival patterns so they can live with greater freedom, wholeness, and connection with God.
Learn more about Kadri’s work at www.arisetherapies.co.uk
Key Themes from #KC6
1. What Does It Really Mean to “Forget”?
Drawing from Philippians 3:13–14, we reflected on Paul’s words:
“Forgetting what lies behind and reaching forward to what lies ahead…”
We unpacked that biblical “forgetting” does not mean pretending something didn’t happen. It means allowing the past to lose its power over the present. It is not denial — it is freedom.
We were reminded that we cannot strip power from something we refuse to name. Healing begins with awareness.
2. Big T Trauma and Small t Trauma
A powerful distinction was made between:
- Big T trauma — clearly distressing, life-altering events.
- Small t trauma — everyday experiences such as chronic criticism, emotional neglect, feeling unseen or unheard.
While small t trauma may not appear dramatic, it can quietly shape a person’s sense of safety, worth and belonging.
This helped many of us recognise patterns that may have influenced our behaviours, reactions and self-perception without us realising.
3. The Nervous System and Safety
We explored the idea that the developing nervous system asks one core question: “Am I safe?”
When stress is chronic, the brain wires for hypervigilance, self-monitoring and survival-based responses. When safety is consistent, it wires for regulation, trust and emotional flexibility.
This reminded us that healing is not only spiritual, it is embodied.
4. Letting the Past Lose Its Power
Through both Scripture and psychological insight, we were encouraged that healing is not about erasing the past, but reshaping how it influences us.
Neuroplasticity, the brain’s ability to rewire, gives hope that what was shaped in stress can be reshaped through:
- Safe relationships
- Secure attachment
- Therapy
- Spiritual practices grounded in safety
As Isaiah 43:18–19 reminds us:
“Forget the former things… See, I am doing a new thing.”
The promise is not that the wilderness never existed, but that God makes a way through it.
Reflection
#KC6 invited us to gently ask:
- What from my past may still be shaping my present?
- Where might I need safety before striving?
- What would it look like to pursue purpose from healing rather than survival?
It was an evening marked by honesty, depth and hope, a reminder that purpose unfolds most fully when we allow restoration to take place.
If you would like to continue reflecting, we encourage you to work through the session worksheet and revisit the recap on our YouTube channel.
The Community Speaks
“Thank you so much for organising the event. It is very rare these days you get anything for free and it means that anyone can have access to helpful and important guidance to bring freedom and allow us to walk in our God given purpose. May God bless everyone who gave their time to organise the event, both on the run up and tonight, to make this possible. It really is appreciated!”
“This conversation really opened my eyes to how subtle experiences can shape us without us even realising.”
“I appreciated the gentleness and honesty. It felt like a safe space to reflect.”
“The distinction between Big T and small t trauma really resonated with me.”
“Thank you so much for organising the event. It is very rare these days you get anything for free and it means that anyone can have access to helpful and important guidance to bring freedom and allow us to walk in our God given purpose. May God bless everyone who gave their time to organise the event, both on the run up and tonight, to make this possible. It really is appreciated!”
“This conversation really opened my eyes to how subtle experiences can shape us without us even realising.”
“I appreciated the gentleness and honesty. It felt like a safe space to reflect.”
“The distinction between Big T and small t trauma really resonated with me.”